It may not surprise you to learn that pandemics generally aren’t the best for us. Depression and anxiety like things like control, stability, people we can trust, a little bit of change (at our own pace when we get to decide what is changing), and routine.
Enter March 2020 and the pandemic. Aka no control, zero stability, all the people we can trust being taken away from us and so much change you can hardly keep up. Is it any wonder that those of us with existing mental health conditions are not exactly loving life right now?
I’m currently working through my second lot of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and it’s pretty helpful. A lot of it is about breathing properly, relaxing, sleep issues, etc. With some fun exercises (including a visualisation one which involves a forest which I LOVE). But this particular program has also been put together in response to the pandemic and deals with issues like control (aka what do I do about the fact that I was one of two wearing a mask on my bus? How do I know where all of my housemates have been? What if my friends hug someone who has it? What if I accidentally break the rules? What if people I see hate all the rules? You get the picture). It’s very useful and if you’d like some ideas then do feel free to message me. But the most helpful thing I’ve been doing outside of cbt (which by the way is provided by the incredible NHS), is to read my bible and pray. I can’t control this virus! I can’t control what’s next. I have zero idea about what the immediate future/ the rest of this year looks like. I feel like I’ve had a little bit of a head start over many people as I’ve been practicing the art of taking each day as it comes, one day at a time, for years… and yet I still long to plan and get so sad when my plans are cancelled!
But the brilliant thing about being a Christian is that God knows all of this! He knows how much I love to plan and how frustrated I get when I can only make plans a week in advance. He knows how anxious I get about friends travelling here, there and everywhere and he knows the stress that I feel from my commute and the conflict that sometimes brings. Jesus has gone through every single emotion that this pandemic can and will produce and still died for me. This means that whatever next week produces and however the rest of this year pans out, I can still totally and utterly trust him. As the writer of psalm 119 puts it:
“You are my refuge and my shield; I have put my hope in your word.” (Psalm 119:114)